Habits change into character

Cheating and infidelity are major issues in the Millennial generation. The rise of online dating sites, vanish mode, and fake Instagram profiles all increase online anonymity and paired with a mobile device, becomes catastrophes waiting to happen! Anyone toying with secret desires has an enormous freedom in 2021. Whether you are in a relationship or purely dating with the intent of forming a relationship I will say this, “Habits form your character over time.”

In recent months my relationship has experienced many revelations and one overlooked in the earlier dating stage recently reveal itself. …

May and I both met our partners online.

Her partner Ty was almost too good to be true when they got married in 2019. My partner Mr. Brooks and I have had our share of magic with a touch of chaos to say the least. As I spoke with May on the phone recently, laughed with me about the realities of online dating and perception management we both realized shaped our conversations with these men we grew to love. While May and Ty took a different path forward than Mr. Brooks and I, the advice I would never, ever suggest considering in your relationship is this:

“Try not…

“Last birthday, she got you a new sweater put it on, give her a kiss, and tell her, ‘Do better’,” — Kanye West

This is the relationship advice no one wants to hear, and I have to give at least monthly. When women look at my relationship and think we have our shit together, they’re wrong. When men look at my relationship, they lick their lips in jealousy, which is just child’s play to me. The truth is, my partner and I have been through hell and back. …

“We fell in love in a hopeless place,” — Rihanna

Once upon a time I had a blog called Realationships. It was 2013 back when open relationships were taboo, tinder was founded a year earlier, and women were still embarrassed about getting periods. Jesus. Needless to say, we have come a long, long way. Anyway, this blog was after realizing the man I was in a relationship with, was definitely not my Prince Charming. In fact, he was your typical twenty-something man with no idea what he wants, just bouncing from happy hour to happy hour looking for the next…

“I shoulda looked up in the sky at first.
Now I can see it in her eyes. Fireworks!” — Drake

I‘d been messaging with him all night from a rooftop party. My face glowed as I stared into the screen at his texts. A man nearby was trying to get my attention, but that was an implausible battle.

I walked into the bathroom and stared into the mirror. Is it possible I could already love August after only a few days?

I snapped a picture in the bathroom mirror and sent it to him with the text, “Thinking of you.”

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In 2014, I cheated. One decision, one night, and one emotion (revenge) drove me to a space that made my values unclear, my self-respect impossible, and my integrity as loose as a kindergartener’s shoelaces. I couldn’t trust myself and that was a painful journey of healing. A year later, harboring those lies had wreaked so much havoc on my body that it was no surprise when my doctor told me I had early stages of cervical cancer. I lived out of alignment and my spirit knew. …